Successfully Approaching Beautiful Women

May 28, 2008

Successfully Approaching Beautiful Women
By Josh Turner

The sole purpose of an opener is not getting her phone number or impressing her, during this phase you should focus on creating a social connection between you and the group of people your target is in. To be an alpha man, you must be shocking, make them get out of their world and join you!

So let’s see what an alpha man does and doesn’t do:

You spot a "10", blonde hair, blue eyes, long legs, you walk up to her and..

YOU: Hey

HER: Hi

YOU: So, do you come here often?

HER: No.

YOU: Oh, I see..

Notice how this conversation is going nowhere? Instead of doing so, check out what an alpha man would say :

YOU: Hey

HER: Hi

YOU: Wow you’re a 10!

HER: Heh thanks. (thinking "omg another loser, how will I get rid of him as fast as possible?")

YOU: Ehm.. at a closer look I’d say a 7.. (Neg)

HER: What?!? How dare you! (knowing that she’s a 10, her confidence level is sky high)

YOU: Oh well don’t worry 7 is a good mark! (gently pat her on her shoulder sincerely expressing the fact that you are not impressed, in pick up literature this is called a NEG - negative hit)

And here you are, you opened the girl and demonstrated higher value by showing that you are not impressed at all by her looks.

After all let’s be honest, approaching women isn’t that easy. It can be awkward, embarrassing, and downright difficult. But, like most things in life, if you know what you are doing it’s easier. If you really want to become an alpha man, you need to practice.

When approaching women you should concentrate on the following things :

The first and most important rule is to open as fast as possible, not allowing your mind to start asking stupid question and destroy the little confidence you have. Start picking up girls right when you enter the venue or as fast as possible, make sure nobody conceives you as being alone because it lowers your social value. Even if you don’t have a specific target right from the start never sit with your beer in front of your chest looking around like a predator like most guys do, rather pretend that you’re having a conversation on your cell phone or talk to a friend but never sit alone gazing around.

Open using an opener with situational relevance, in a way you DO NOT convey sexual interest, facing body/feet in a different way you normally would while talking to somebody familiar. If you are worried that she might avoid conversation, don’t be! Have you ever seen how openers are performed in movies? Almost all the time the man faces the bar, not showing any interest in starting and building conversation with the girl and throws a one line statement, usually a question or few words about something that he thinks is true about the target.

Note that it is a good practice to hold a strong eye contact while facing your chest towards another direction. It is also common to lie and tell her you have just a few moments to talk because you are on your way back to your friends (perhaps pointing to your friends’ table). In addition you can perform a body trick communicating to your target that you are about to leave but just when "you leave" you have another question or story to tell.