I’m Not THAT Lonely!

May 28, 2008

I’m Not THAT Lonely!
By Sara Abrams

was taking a walk this gorgeous morning, heading back home from my local greenway, when two clean-cut, dorky looking young men walked toward me. They both were wearing short sleeve, button down shirts with ties and dress slacks. They were both holding Bibles in one hand with Jesus Christ, Latter Day Saints, written on the binder. I guess that meant they were Mormons, but I’m more used to seeing Jehovah’s Witnesses canvass my neighborhood.

One of the young men called out "Good morning!" and I cheerily said good morning back. He asked me if I wouldn’t mind chatting with them and I breezed by mentioning, "That’s okay. I’m Jewish". He perked up at and said, "Really?" (I think it’s a notch in your belt if you convert a Jew.) I kept walking, thinking to myself, "I sure am lonely, but not lonely enough to engage in a long, drawn out conversation with these young men about why I have no interest in their religion." I guess this sounds strange, but I was proud of myself that I was able to keep to myself and stay within my own headspace and not feel I had to engage these strangers in dialog, just to stimulate my vocal chords which hadn’t been used in 12 hours.

I’m not writing this article to speak about religion, although I could! I was thinking more about loneliness, specifically my loneliness. I’ve been seriously looking for a "husband" the past few months. I’m not dedicating my life to it, but suddenly it seems like the time is right. I’m not lacking people to talk to. I have a roommate, I have a busy work schedule, I have girlfriends and I have the occasional "lover" (i.e., booty call). But what I’m lacking is someone to have intimate conversations with. Someone who really wants to hear about my day and my triumphs and tribulations. Someone who wants me to listen to their war stories. I’m at a stage in my life that I not only want to give of myself but want someone who will want a piece of me. I’m tired of walking the greenway alone, going to parties, movies and dinners with friends as a single person. An ultimate ideal couple day for me consists of driving to Sam’s Club and shopping together. Watching other couples shop together makes me feel very alone.

The hard part will be finding someone who gives me space, but also wants to be in my space. I’m hopeful it will happen and hoping it will happen this year. I don’t know why I feel this, but my gut says it will happen this year. A friend told me that July would be the time to find my guy. Send out good thoughts and affirmations my way! I’ll keep you up to-date.

Sara Abrams is the former publisher of two magazines based in Charlotte, NC, The MECK and Cats & Dogs of Charlotte. She currently serves as the Vice President of Sales & Marketing for Women With Know How, a women’s resource guide and directory. She also helps business owners and individuals with identity theft protection. http://www.abramsmediagroup.com