Mothers In Law - What You Can Do With Annoying Ones

April 30, 2008

Mothers In Law - What You Can Do With Annoying Ones
By Shevach Pepper Platinum Quality Author

We have seen them on TV, read about them in books, and even laughed at the situations that these characters get into but there is nothing funny about the situations that arise from annoying mothers in law. In fact, having one such mother in law can actually put a strain on your martial life and ultimately your relationship with your spouse.

There are however, a few things that you can do in order to do your best with this type of mother in law. While some mothers in law behave this way naturally, there are some that are acting this way because of a particular problem.

How to deal with mothers in law’s problems.

• The first thing to do is talk with your spouse. It is possible that your Mother-in-law is exhibiting previously seen behavior. Your spouse will be able to tell you if this is the case and then give you advice regarding how best, from experience, to handle the situation. Try to do this in a way that is not going to result in an argument between you and your spouse.

• Talk to your mother-in-law; more importantly listen to what she has to say. It is quite possible that the issues can be easily taken care of and all it takes is a little patience and the willingness to listen.

• Do not get into an argument with your mother-in-law. It does nothing beneficial and can actually create larger issues. Do not be a push over and allow her to walk all over you but do not go out of your way to make an augmentative situation.

• Find out about something she likes and provide her with the tickets or the item. Check with your spouse or even your Father-in-law to see if this is something that will work in your favor. Some people may consider it a nice gesture while others would see it as an attempt to suck up which could create issues in and of itself.

• Take some time to consider if it is really your mother-in-law that is the issue. Often time’s issues from our own childhood can be impressed or imprinted on others. It is possible that the annoying behaviors are not actually annoying but bring up unpleasant things in your past causing the reaction.

• Consider the possibility that she might actually be attempting to connect with you and it is simply not going in the correct way. This happens when people lack the social and communication skills necessary to present what they want in a way that others will understand. This is why it is important to get to know her; you may find that she is really trying to get along with you.

The most important thing when dealing with difficult people is to take the advice of individuals who have dealt with the situation before. Take the time to listen as well. Communication is the key to understand each other. If there is a break in the communication then there can be no understanding. Remember also to maintain a patient and polite attitude, be respectful it can go a long way into making sure that situations stay under control.

Shevach Pepper is the founder and moderator of http://www.valuable-family-relationships-advice.com . Visit there and discover how to save and enhance relationships with mothers in law and other family members. Your whole family will be happy that you did!