Is A One Night Stand More Acceptable Than A Long Term Affair?

April 30, 2008

Is A One Night Stand More Acceptable Than A Long Term Affair?
By Doug Young and Christina Young Platinum Quality Author

Cheating is cheating. However much you dress it up and try to argue your corner, if you’ve cheated in your relationship or marriage and for whatever reason your partner or spouse now knows about it you’ve put a rift between you that is going to take a lot of working out.

‘But I’d had a few drinks, I didn’t really know what I was doing and it didn’t mean anything’ is your argument. ‘It’s not as if I’ll be seeing them again. What’s all the fuss about?’ Funnily enough your partner may not see it that way.

So is a one night stand less of an offence than a long term affair? There is no definitive answer to that because it depends on your individual viewpoint. And it could be that your partner has a different view on it to you.

So often couples have this sort of discussion ‘after the event’. And the ‘event’ doesn’t have to be infidelity. It may be about flirting. One person might be as upset by their partner or spouse flirting with someone of the opposite sex as another would be about their significant other having a one night stand.

Problems so often arise because couples have never shared their views on this sort of thing. They have never set their boundaries which is so important in any relationship.

Have you ever asked your partner or spouse whether they were unfaithful in their previous relationships before they met you? If not why not? If they we’re unfaithful before statistics reveal that they are more likely to do it again than those who’ve never strayed. Don’t you think that it’s something you should know early on in a relationship?

So many problems in a relationship, particularly in the case of infidelity, stem from poor communication. So often we find it’s easier to sweep things under the carpet than discuss them openly, and so often these issues jump out and bite us later on.

If you’re in that position and need help here’s what you must do next…

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Doug and Chris Young are Relationship Coaches who really can walk the talk, having survived infidelity in their own marriage and come out of it much stronger http://www.askdougandchris.com