Spot And Deal With The Early Signs Of Problems In A Marriage

February 29, 2008

Spot And Deal With The Early Signs Of Problems In A Marriage
By Azhar Victor

Deal With The Signs Early

Problems in a marriage occur over time. These can often be overlooked or brushed off as one of those things. However, where the problems are recognized or acknowledged at the early stages in a marriage, chances are, the repair and recovery rate is likely to be far greater. If not, there is much unnecessary hurt and it is difficult to move on with building a healthy and meaningful relationship. Worse still, unresolved problems do not simply fade or go away. They can and do resurface in a most unlikely manner and in a totally unrelated context. As the build-up and trigger is mostly emotional, it can often leave one flabbergasted! What happened? What went wrong? Even if you do figure it out, it would be a bit too late. The damage would have been done.

What Are The Signs?

Some of them are:

Staying Away Often. Lots of work at the office, met some old friends, meetings etc., are among some of the excuses used.

Irritability with little things. Everything is just not right: words, behaviors, actions or lack of action. Seemingly unimportant things cause annoying irritations.

Reduced intimacy. Strangers in the night behaving even stranger during the day. In many cases, a hug, embrace or kiss will tell a story. You know, it just does not feel right. You can sense that something is wrong. Just like a smile. You can tell when it is genuine and when it is superficial.

Lack of communication. Avoiding eye contact. The small talk gets less and less. Proximity becomes uncomfortable. Taking off without informing the partner or spouse about where one is going or how long they would be away.

Everything comes under close scrutiny and analysis. Why did you do that? Why did you say that? What did you really mean?

How To Deal With The Problems

Talk things over. What is the real problem? How can we overcome this? Try something new. Take a break. Go on a holiday. Speak to someone. Call some fiends over for a small and cosy evening. Read about how others have coped with problems in their marriages. Do not just react to problems. It usually makes things worse. Take a pause. Think things through and respond appropriately to address the specific problem or issue. Avoid generalizing the problem. If you do, you lose focus and you cannot manage the problem. Do not be reluctant to seek help. Help is now so easily accessible. You can even get help without a face-to-face contact. However, be careful in selecting your source of help.

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