Biggest Mistakes To Avoid After Getting Married By Angel Cuala

February 29, 2008

Biggest Mistakes To Avoid After Getting Married
By Angel Cuala Platinum Quality Author

Getting married is one of the happiest moments for lovers. Being someone you promised to love for the rest of your life is such a wonderful feeling to enjoy. Some people say that they feel complete after they got married. You are willing to sacrifice a lot of things to make each other happy. But like any other individual activity, you may be making mistakes and doing it in your own expense can lost yourself. With this, let me share to you some of biggest mistakes after getting married and I hope you are not doing any or all of them.

Your identity is being lost. Sometimes we are so much in love with a person that we tend to forget that we have our own life to attend to. Most women give up their professional career just to take care of their husbands and children. This is acceptable but when you stop earning knowledge in what you do, this is absolutely wrong. Being at home does not mean you can do something good for yourself anymore. In fact, it is your identity can help your marriage be successful.

Giving more than you can. Surrendering yourself to your spouse means giving all you can. You should do everything that will satisfy the needs of your spouse. But if you are overdoing it, nothing will be left for you. Time will come that you will be giving what is almost impossible to give, but your spouse will still ask for more. You are only human who have a lot of limitations and so as your spouse. Therefore, you should not treat your spouse as your god.

You are being careless. This includes your health and time for you to unwind. Do not forget that you cannot perform as a good spouse if you are sick. You will also tend to be overconfident with your feelings because you think that your spouse will not cheat on you. Trust is very important to have a successful marriage but you must also be able to know your limit. You must have an action when you have a hint that there is something wrong going on.

You stop fulfilling your dreams. I am pretty sure that being married is not your only dream in life. There are still a lot of stars to reach for yourself even if you are already married. Being a good parent is also a career and actually, it is the best career for women. Your passion must not revolve in one person only, and being a better half is not the only reason you got married. You must realize that you may be alone again, and you will find it hard to do it because you already lost your focus about life.

You are being a slave. This does not mean he is hurting you physically. The mere fact that you do not have a voice inside the house is enough for you to be called a slave. You must have the right to oppose or bring a suggestion to improve your relationship. A marriage will not be successful if only one of you is the master. It is not a solo career, but a partnership that is composed of two happy and contented individuals.

It is the ability to love yourself that makes you capable of loving others.

I am a Filipino engineer who recently found himself more comfortable in writing letters rather than numbers, and interacting with humans instead of machines. For more quality articles on how to have a successful marriage, and what marriage is all about, please feel free to visit Successful Marriage Tips at http://www.whatmarriageisallabout.blogspot.com